We all know high maintenance people. If you don't know any just sit down and watch an episode of Bridezilla or one of those reality shows about 15 year old girls' parents taking out massive loans to throw their little princess the perfect sweet 16 party. I don't know about you but I tend to avoid high maintenance people.
Sadly there also exists high maintenance believers. Christians who appear to be a tad bit spoiled or expect the church to revolve around them. Basically it boils down to a maturity issue. I was thinking about this some the past couple of days and here are some of the "HMB" indicators that stood out to me:
>Complains that no one in the church cares for them yet they are not involved in a small group or Sunday School class.
>Gripes that no one from the church helped them in their time of need yet when asked when they last did this for someone they come up blank or "I'm sure I have".
>Complain that the pastor's sermons just aren't deep enough for them but they never crack open the Bible themselves for a little self feeding or even attempt to apply what is taught.
>First to cry out when their favorite program is cut or changed.
>Quick to point out ministry needs but never lift a finger to do ministry.
>Take their toys and go home. Bail out and stay home and pout if something happens or is said that they don't like.
>Think that church is for them.
>Love committees but wouldn't dare join a team, that would require time and sacrifice.
>Quick for the hand out but slow to put their hand out to help
>Want to be served but don't want to serve.
>Favorite line when asked to serve is, "I'm just so busy."
>More concerned about the external than the internal or the eternal.
>Would be offended by this list.
Most if not all churches have this type of believer in the congregation. So what is a church to do? I have come to the conclusion that we don't have the time to hold a "mature" believer's hand and walk them through life. Sadly, often in churches, more time is spent on high maintenance believers then time spent trying to make disciples. I think all a church can do is lay it out, "Here is what we have, and here is what we do." We can't hold your hand and scratch your every itch at some point you, the believer, must get a grip and take responsibility for your own growth. Let's say I have a serious Reese’s' Peanut Butter Egg addiction (and I think I do) and the church offers a group for those of us that are RPBE addicts it is my responsibility to get involved in the group. It is not the staff's job to come to my house, dress me, load me in the car and take me to the group. It's not the group's responsibility to beg me and plead with me, a member of their church, to get involved.
Here is the buffet! It's your choice to dine or not.
For those with the gift of mercy - I'm not making reference to new believers